This summer two dear friends, Jake and Enrica, got married. Printed in their wedding program was this sweet little verse from Hafiz. It warmed my heart then and still does now.
It’s been a while since I posted. Too long. All of fall has nearly gone by and there were no new posts on the must-have boots or clever recipes for apples. (Hopefully you found the perfect boots to wear apple picking in the interim.) Over the past few months, my favorite past time, this blog, went on an unintended sabbatical. These things happen, so, no need to twist into a knot over it. The blog is coming back – I won’t promise there will be a sparkly new post every day – but there will be new posts often.
In the meantime, as I am posting on my 28th birthday, I thought I’d share some lessons from the past year.
- My advice as I look back on 27 is to expect the unexpected. Life, or the life we plan, is just that, a plan. Plans change. The timeline we think we’ll meet isn’t always so and if you allow that to be okay, it will be. **If you stop reading now, you’ll be fine. If you keep going, you’ll be better. Here’s more advice, don’t skip around too much when you’re reading you’ll miss things.
- Ask questions. When someone uses words you don’t understand, terms you’ve never heard or a tone you’re unsure about, ask them what they mean. Be sure. Being wrong because of your assumptions is worse that being embarrassed because you don’t understand. Asking questions means you’re still learning. Learning means you’re alive.
- Eat lunch, not at your desk. Meet with friends, old colleagues, old friends, new mentors, eat lunch and break bread. Share stories and laugh and really try to do it more often. Give yourself extra bonus points for walking to lunch. (This is something I am still working on.)
- Set goals and work really hard at them. Determine what you want to have – a new job, a new title, a new skill, a new triumph. And do it. Take notes a long the way, follow up, put your head down and cross off every small accomplishment and relish them. When you still aren’t at your goal (and the timeline doesn’t line up, reread #1) go back to it and work harder. P.S. When you hit that goal and you get that title/job/skill/life change, celebrate like the rockstar you are.
- Don’t feel badly about crying or not crying. Sometimes the best medicine you can give yourself is a moment to cry. Other times the best thing you can do for yourself is to not cry. There are no rules. If you think you’re crying too much, find something to laugh at.
- Celebrate, everything. Celebrate good weather, celebrate small wins (see #4), celebrate friends, celebrate birthdays, engagements, weddings, graduations, babies and all the good moments that bring us together. The human condition brings us together, if you bring cake the human condition becomes a party.
- Don’t be afraid to change things up. The way “it” has always been done isn’t because it is the best way to do it, but rather because change takes thought, time and a little muscle. Change is good and so is building up some muscle.
- Know in your head, your heart and to the ends of your finger tips, that you’re not done. What you know at 12, 17, 24, or what I think I know at 28 should only be a shadow of what I know and will accomplish the next time I blow out the candles.
Here’s hoping all of my wishes come true… and yours too!
It can be tricky to set a resolution for the New Year… here are some ideas to get you started. 26 Ways to do Better in 2012.
I’ll let you know how I do… Which of these, if any, speak loudest to you?
I previously talked about why I love the Internet, or Google (which for me, is the Internet), but now my love has gone to an all new level.
If you have a heart of any kind/size, love to get emails, enjoy pictures, or are an over all sap (hello!) this quick video is worth a watch, and whatever tears may follow.
Look, I cried at my desk – that is the power of Google!
This is how I learned last night that there was news to know. I’m on Twitter (@CRL26) and this tweet prompted me to visit CNN’s website – which was not yet updated.
I continued to get my news from today’s leading Twitter journalists (which aren’t really journalists at all, at least not in the traditional sense). These are people who are digesting the Internet at a rate that makes keeping up a game and a challenge.
In the next few minutes, without the use of television and only my little smartphone, I learned the following:
During the Twitter news-cycle I saw a lot of people tweeting about “Where they were when…” They discussed where they were when they first head of 9/11, and now where they are as the President announces that Osama bin Laden had been captured and killed.
To me what is most interesting is how did you learn? In 2011 I was in high school, and I learned via the public address that something was wrong, and then watched on the morning news. Last night, I learned via Twitter.
The low barriers of the Internet make it possible for us all to be journalists and to be on the front lines and embedded within our own daily lives. Just ask @ReallyVirtual who unknowingly live-tweeted the assasination.
The low barriers of the Internet allow for us all to be published authors (hello, this blog!), leaders of movements (the 2008 election) and revolutionaries (Iran, Tunisia, Egypt, Libya, and so on). The Internet isn’t going anywhere, and the technology is accelerated further because of the value that it adds to the potential for democracy and transparency for all people.
I look forward to seeing what makes the news next and when, I already know how…
Tomorrow, Waity Katy will wait no more. Tomorrow, Kate Middleton, the future Catherine, the Something of Somewhere will be a bride, and the most watched bride of all time.
|Kate and William via People.com
I mentioned in conversation the other day that I sort of feel badly for Kate – yea, we’re on a first name basis. It can be tough to be a bride, especially when your every move is scrutinized and then compared to one of the world’s most beloved women, your groom’s mother.
|Prince Charles and Lady Diana Spencer, July 29, 1981via People.com
But, it also got me thinking, how unique is her situation, really? On her wedding day she will become a princess, and on your wedding day so will you. Stay with me here…
You might hate the idea of being a princess, and what is stands for: the patriarchy, and pomp and circumstance.
You might be a beach bride, a ballroom bride, a courtroom bride or a castle bride.
You might get your dress off the rack, at a sample sale, or have it be the most highly speculated gown of the year.
You might share donuts with your spouse, cupcakes, or a multi-tiered traditional English fruitcake (*yikes!).
You might have a very small budget, be a DIY-er, or be employing a royal army of vendors for your wedding day.
It makes no difference. On the day you put on your dress (maybe it’s red, “diamond” white, ivory, or somewhere in between) and walk towards your groom, (up the stairs of the courthouse or down the long and storied aisle of Westminster Abbey), you will be the only person anyone looks at, the only person anyone talks about, and the only Princess for your Prince Charming.
|Mark and I on our Wedding Day, via 1313blog.com
I will be watching tomorrow as William and Kate say “I do” and share their awkward first public kiss as husband and wife.
If you’re in need of more Royal Wedding info, People has done a great job of pulling it all together, and you can watch it live online at 5 AM, EST. You can also follow the wedding news on Twitter with #rw2011.
Now all that’s left is seeing what she wears!
This weekend I am running the Cherry Blossom Ten Mile Race. I am clearly not the first person to run this race, and I’ll be running it with thousands of other people, but I am excited about this race. And by excited I mean pretty nervous.
I am not a runner. In fact, when I went to the running store two weeks ago to buy new sneakers, I emphatically told the employee, “I am running in the Cherry Blossom Ten Mile, but I’m not a runner or anything”. And the truth is, I wasn’t a runner. I didn’t look forward to running the trails near our apartment in Virginia, and I often stood on the side of the track while Mark ran (and fast).
This past fall, I knew I needed to find a mental and physical challenge to compete with the various other challenges in life. I needed something to focus on, to aspire to and to complete.
I am generally competitive by nature, but the only person I have been competing with has been me. Over the course of the last two months, during my training program, I have gone from dreading the 3 miles I needed to run, to saying now, “Oh, it’s just three miles.”
Before I ever started running I told myself that if I ran 5 miles my gift to myself would be the Maniac pumps from Brian Atwood, it is no longer about the shoes. It is about knowing that I set a goal, I went after it, and in a few days I will do it. I am not running for time, I am running for me.
I’ll report back on Monday with the results.
If you need a reason to take on a new challenge, the reason should be because you can, and so you have to.
Have a great weekend.
It is very cold outside, my legs are sore and my brain is ready for weekend. But before I get too far ahead of myself… I have much to thankful for.
- I am grateful for sore legs and muscles that are getting stronger and ready to be used, to let me train for a race that is only 6.5 weeks away
- I am grateful that spring actually is only six weeks away – seriously, very thankful for that one.
- I am thankful for the chance to cook for the people I love and try new recipes and flavors with abandon
- Also thankful when we are able to save a little bit of leftovers for lunch!
- I am thankful for the quiet times in an otherwise very busy week.
I hope you have much to be thankful for at the end of this week, and even more than that have a moment to think about it and celebrate it.
I have stood in this spot. And in this spot, it is hard to not be inspired to dream a little bit bigger. I cannot find words that compete or match the many bold, and much needed, words spoken at this spot. But on this occasion, but I share a wish for you:
That today, and on all days, you dream a little bit bigger. You dream for those who have been told that their dreams do not count, and for those who do not yet have the courage to dream. Today, and everyday after, is a good day to take the road less traveled, which will surely show you the path to human decency, kindness, compassion and goodwill towards all men, women and children wherever they may live, however they may identify, and whatever they may look like.
Happy Birthday, Dr. King.
This morning I made baklava and mini pecan pies. My sister made honey glazed corn bread with a recipe borrowed from a friend. My mom made three pumpkin pies, pecan pie, cranberry scones, and a turkey (just for leftovers).
In the other room my husband and father are discussing business and books and music, and life.
Pretty soon we’ll all make an apple pie that we could probably all make in our sleep.
In a few hours we will go to my great Aunt J’s house and I’ll see my cousins, aunts, grandparents and celebrate all of the things we are thankful for. But, truly we are really most thankful for each other.
This year has been a year of triumph and successes, trying and tears, new discoveries, beginnings and the continuation of the journey we call life. That life is made more tolerable, more sweet, more enjoyable and that much more valuable when surrounded by people you love, and the people who love you.
I wish you the most peaceful of Thanksgivings, and hope you’ll have a moment to consider and celebrate all of the ways you are thankful.
Thank you for reading and allowing me to share my journey with you.
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